Groom Survival Guide: Wedding Day Duties

By  Tommy Peske
Updated on 02/02/24
Groom Survival Guide: Wedding Day Duties

Groom Survival Guide: Wedding Day Duties

By  Tommy Peske
Updated on 02/02/24

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Groom Survival Guide: Wedding Day Duties

By  Tommy Peske
Updated on 02/02/24

A groom adjusting his tie

The big day is coming up fast and there are still a few things that need to be taken care of! As the groom, it’s your responsibility to make sure that everything goes off without a hitch. In this blog post, we will discuss some essential duties that you need to take care of before the wedding day. From hiring a band or DJ to collecting addresses for save-the-dates, we will cover it all! Don’t let anything slip through the cracks – read on for more information.

Hiring a Band or DJ

A DJ with an cool abstract background

Grooms, it’s your big day too! And while your partner is busy planning every last detail of the ceremony and reception, don’t forget that you have an essential duty to fulfill: hiring the band. That’s right, the music is just as important as the flowers and the cake, so don’t leave it to chance. Here are a few tips to help you choose the perfect band for your big day.

First, think about the kind of atmosphere you want to create. A good wedding band will be able to get everyone on their feet and dancing, regardless of age or musical taste. If you want a more laid-back vibe, look for a band that specializes in jazz or acoustic music. Next, consider your budget. 

Wedding bands can range in price from a few hundred dollars to several thousand, so it’s important to find one that fits your budget. A lot of couples are hiring DJs for their weddings instead of somewhat expensive bands. Finally, take some time to read online reviews and talk to friends who have been married recently. And of course, don’t forget to consult with your spouse-to-be!

Collecting Addresses for Save-the-Dates

A save-the-date letter going into a mailbox

One of the first duties of a groom after deciding to get married is to begin collecting addresses for save-the-dates. This may seem like a simple task, but it can actually be quite daunting. First, the groom must compile a list of all the important people in his life – family, friends, co-workers, etc., before consulting with the spouse-to-be and doing the same. Then he must track down their current mailing addresses. 

This can be tricky, especially if some of the guests have moved recently or are not easily reachable by phone or email. Once the addresses have been collected, the groom must then decide on a design for the save-the-dates and have them printed. With all of these steps, it’s no wonder that many grooms choose to leave this task to their spouse-to-be. It’s nice to let them relax and take this on yourself.

Book The Honeymoon

booking the honeymoon date with an Eiffel Tower background

Everyone dreams of having the perfect honeymoon, and it’s the groom’s job to make those dreams a reality. But with so many options out there, how do you know where to start? First, take into account the time of year you’ll be getting married. If you’re tying the knot in the middle of summer, you’ll probably want to avoid anywhere with high humidity or temperatures (unless you’re into that).

If you’re getting married in the winter, on the other hand, you might want to consider a warm-weather destination. Once you’ve narrowed down your options based on climate, it’s time to start thinking about activities. 

Are you looking for a romantic getaway where you can spend lazy days lounging on the beach? Or are you hoping for an adventure-filled trip where you can explore new places and try new things? Perhaps a combination of both? Once you’ve decided on the type of honeymoon you want, it’s time to start researching specific destinations. And don’t forget to involve your spouse-to-be in the decision-making process!

After finding a destination you’ve agreed on, the next step is to book your stay. It’s fun to fly out somewhere far away, so we definitely recommend that. Not many people realize that if they buy their plane tickets far in advance, they can actually save a lot of money. 

But before getting your plane tickets, make sure that you’ve figured out the logistics of the actual location you’ll be staying at. You don’t want to get there and find out that it costs way more money than you expected, or maybe the entire place itself isn’t actually what you had in mind. Do your due diligence and read reviews from other people who have stayed there before.

All in all, booking the honeymoon is one of the most important duties of the groom. It can be a daunting task, but with a little research and planning, it can definitely be done.

Hire a Photographer

Hand holding a digital camera

Hiring a photographer is an essential duty for a groom. It takes a lot of research and vetting, but it’s worth it to have amazing memories of your wedding day. After all, your spouse-to-be isn’t the only one who wants to remember how stunning they looked walking down the aisle. 

The groom also wants to remember the moment they saw them for the first time and how happy they were on their special day. But more than just taking photos, a good photographer will be able to capture the emotions of the day and the love between the newlyweds. They will be able to look back on their wedding photos and relive all the joy, love, and happiness they felt on that day. 

So if you’re getting married soon, don’t forget to hire a photographer! It’s an essential part of making sure you have beautiful memories to cherish for a lifetime.

Here are some tips for hiring a photographer:

  • Do your research: Look at different photographers’ websites and read reviews from past clients. This will give you a good idea of their style and whether or not they’re reputable.
  • Check out their portfolio: Make sure that their portfolio features photos that you like and that they have experience shooting weddings.
  • Meet in person: Once you’ve narrowed down your options, set up meetings with the photographers you’re interested in. This will allow you to get to know them better and see if their personality meshes well with yours.
  • Ask for referrals: If you know anyone who’s recently gotten married, ask them for recommendations. They might have some great suggestions for you.
  • Make a decision: After meeting with different photographers, it’s time to make a decision. Choose the one you feel most comfortable with and who you think will do a great job capturing your wedding day.

We hope these tips help you in your search for the perfect photographer!

Plan The Bar

A person sitting and planning on a giant wine glass


Planning a bar is an essential duty for a groom. After all, what’s a wedding reception without booze? But where to start? First, you’ll need to assess the crowd. Are your guests beer people or wine people? Maybe they are liquor people! Are there non-drinkers in attendance?

Once you’ve got that sorted, it’s time to start stocking the shelves. If you’re going the DIY route, be sure to hit up your local liquor store for bulk discounts on champagne, beer, and whatever else your heart desires. And don’t forget the bar snacks! No one wants to drink on an empty stomach. Crisps and peanuts are always a safe bet, but if you really want to impress your guests, hire a caterer to prepare some gourmet hors d’oeuvres. Trust us, it’ll make all the difference.

In certain states, venues require you to hire one or more of their bartenders. They can often help come up with shopping lists based on the size of your wedding and what kind of alcohol you want to serve. Ask about this when you’re booking your venue so that you can be prepared.

Last but not least, make sure you have a plan for dealing with drunk guests. It’s always a good idea to have someone designated to be the sober driver or to call taxis for guests who have had too much to drink. Here are some wedding day tips to maintain a good buzz, if you plan to drink!

You don’t want anyone getting behind the wheel after drinking, so plan ahead and have a way to get your guests home safely. Having a licensed bartender on-site is definitely recommended (and often required) for this reason. They won’t serve guests who are clearly impaired.


Final Thoughts

As you can see, there are a lot of important duties that a groom has to take care of before the big day. But don’t let it overwhelm you! Just take it one step at a time and you’ll be sure to have everything under control in no time. Christina Stewart from Cicinia, wants you to remember to “voice your opinions and preferences with your partner throughout the planning process” for a more enjoyable and easier big day for you both. And on the day of your wedding, just relax and enjoy the ride. After all, you only get to do this once!

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